Virginia Beach, VA – January 25, 2017 – Almost every one of us goes through the death of a parent; and often both parents. There’s no instruction manual to tell us how to navigate through those first days, weeks…and months.
Growing old is not for the faint of heart. In her debut book, Memories in a Daughter’s Heart, ($14.95, Easter Press, December, 2016) Author Deborah Chapman Newell chronicles the story of her fiercely independent mother’s life. Beginning with the catastrophic event that changed her mother’s entire future, through her later years and struggles with memory loss, to a sudden fatal illness, the author not only shares her mother’s story, but her own story of dealing with the grief and subsequent journey of emotional healing after her mother’s death.
How do you navigate the challenges of those end-of-life years with a parent(s)? Many do not even think about such things until it’s almost too late. This practical and timely book will aid adult children in making emotional, mental, and practical preparation for those last years together as well as surviving the inevitable. Through lessons learned through real-life experience as well as other true stories, this book will guide and encourage readers to survive those times with suggestions on:
- Asking questions you’ve always been hesitant to ask, recognizing that future opportunities will become more limited;
- Making memories, no matter how insignificant you may think they are at the time, because you’ll cherish them always;
- Stepping into one of the hardest roles you’ll ever handle in becoming the “parent” for your parent; and
- Picking up the pieces after laying your parent to rest, and wading through all of the legal and financial decisions that come at you when you’re the most vulnerable.
“Sometimes all we want to do is wake up and have the events of the night before be nothing but a bad dream,” Newell explains. “It seems like a nightmare. We lay there and convince ourselves everything is fine. Then we open our eyes, look around us, and realize everything isn’t fine – and it won’t be ever again.”
Every daughter grieves differently. No two situations are totally alike, any more than the particular circumstances surrounding each death are alike. This book was written to not only share the author’s message of hope and encouragement during the most trying of personal circumstances, but to also share unique stories of other women who have experienced the loss of their mothers, and how they survived their particular tragedies.
Author Deborah Chapman Newell has ministered to many women over the past several years who have lost their mothers, as well as to many others who are in the last stages of their mother’s life. It is her sincere hope that this book can be used as a guide for other daughters and their mothers who are traveling down this same road.
“It’s a difficult journey,” says Newell. “Pack only what you need in your suitcase, because there will be a lot of souvenirs you will collect along the way. And you’ll want to make sure you don’t leave any behind.”