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When Heaven’s Gain is Our Loss

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As it usually is. We lose a loved one but Heaven gains another angel.

We grieve our loss. We cry. We mourn. We reflect. We ask why. 

But we really don’t get answers. Because those answers to those questions are not ours to know. And we will only get the answers when we get to our forever home ourselves. 

Just this last week a dear friend lost her great nephew, along with one of his friends, in a senseless drunk driving accident. Being only 26, he had his entire life ahead of him, which was cut short by a senseless act of selfishness which destroyed three families, not counting his own. Two other friends were hospitalized and one is still in a wheelchair.

Also last week, a beloved family member of mine passed away at the age of 97. Yes, she’d lived a full life, a happy life, even though she’d lost her husband to cancer some forty years before. But she is still greatly missed by all of us, even though we know she’s had a wonder reunion with her husband as well as her brothers and sisters and countless friends.

No matter what age, or what the circumstances are, any time a person dies, a family is left behind to grieve. To mourn. To pick up the pieces. And continue on while a part of themselves is forever gone from this life.

And for those of us who are left behind it is our responsibility to carry on their legacy in whatever way we choose. In whatever way we believe would best honor them.

There are countless families every day who go through this. And there are countless more to follow. Whether such a loss is expected or sudden, no matter whether the person is older or young, or very young, it’s still a loss, and it’s still difficult for those who are left behind.

In the time it takes to read this, Heaven has most likely already gained another angel from somewhere in the world. 

We don’t know when the time will be. But it will happen. 

And we all need to be prepared. Somehow. And it’s never easy, no matter how prepared we think we may be.

Grief is a part of life, and there comes a time in each of our lives that we go through it.

Heaven’s gain becomes our loss far too many times. Until that one day we are all reunited again. And we will know the joy they’ve been experiencing while waiting for us.

To those who are grief stricken now, be encouraged knowing that one day…that grief will end.

Rethinking Valentine’s Day 2024

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Valentine’s Day is tomorrow. Just a day away.

The card shops are overflowing with red and pink; there are hearts everywhere, and an entire store-length row of cards, from mushy to funny, for spouses, sweethearts, kids…even the dog and cat! There are singing stuffed animals everywhere, boxes of candy and all kinds of cute figurines that scream “I love you!” Tuesday evening the shops will be full of guys who leave everything to the last minute, and then realize their wife or girlfriend is going to be really upset if they’re empty-handed Wednesday morning.

The florist shops are full of red and pink roses, whose prices are inflated (of course!) for the weekend. After all, roses are in high demand right now, especially red ones! Mylar balloons are appropriately displayed, and deliveries are impossible to schedule, because there just isn’t enough time.

The candy stores are equally busy, making all manner of chocolate goodies, and as quickly as they’re made, they’re walking out the door. Chocolate covered strawberries are a hugely popular item this year, and of course, extremely pricey!

And the restaurants have been advertising their special romantic “dinner for two” packages, with special menus, special wines, and decadent desserts. And for an extra $5 or $10, they’ll include a rose or two. You’d better already have your reservations at the really popular places, because there aren’t any reservations left!

Everywhere you go, you’re bombarded with reminders of Valentine’s Day. You’re even hit with them at the grocery store!

You’re supposed to show him/her how much you REALLY love them on this day. But what about the day before, and the day after? The week after? Don’t those days count as well? Why should we limit showing someone we love them to just one particular day?

But there are many people out there for which Valentine’s Day is just another reminder of what they’ve lost. Like Thanksgiving and Christmas, it can also be a very difficult day.

What about those individuals whose spouses have died, and they’re alone, perhaps for the first time, on Valentine’s Day. They may pass by a card display in a store and see those cards reading “To My Husband/Wife on Valentine’s Day” and suddenly the pain they’ve put away for months comes back as they remember last year’s celebration, and even the cards they may have exchanged.

What about those people whose spouses have deserted them for someone else? They, too, remember previous years, and are now thinking how he/she is with that other person having a wonderful time, while they’re sitting home alone, or perhaps wondering if during last year’s Valentine celebration their now “ex” was actually dreaming about someone else.

Then there’s the young woman who was happily planning her wedding until her fiancé told her just a month ago that he’s changed his mind and calling it off.

What about the young woman or young man who is still searching for that special person to share their life with, and year after year Valentine’s Day is the same? A constant reminder that there’s no one out there for them yet, while all their friends seem to have already found the love of their life. Why not them?

And there’s the couple who just got a devastating diagnosis from the doctor. Now they’re wondering if there’ll even be another Valentine’s Day together next year.

Don’t get me wrong. I like Valentine’s Day; I always have. I enjoy getting a card or two from my husband, and I won’t turn down a box of candy, although now I ask him not to spend money on cut flowers (give me a rosebush I can plant!). But over the past few years we’ve had so many friends going through so much, it has really caused me to reflect on how we think about our loved ones, and how often we actually tell them how important they are to us; how much we appreciate them. Especially the older we get. Because there may not be enough time.

If you’re like me, you don’t do it nearly enough. It’s easy to get so entrenched in our day to day activities that we don’t always take the time we should to let them know we love them, and how much we appreciate those little things they do. And I’m just as guilty as the next person.

We shouldn’t wait til Valentine’s Day to send a message of love, give a card or a box of candy, or take someone out to a special dinner. If we wait, how do we know there’ll be another opportunity? And if there’s no one special in your life right now, call a friend and go somewhere with them; who knows who you may meet because of that particular “date”?

Our daughter has never been one to look to a boyfriend, and now her husband, to shower her with gifts on Valentine’s Day. In fact, she told us many times in high school and college that it wasn’t important to her. “Why should we spend all that money for one day to impress someone? We should do it every day if we really care. It’s just a way for the stores to make money.” I used to worry about her sentiments being a bit misplaced, but looking back a few years, I believe she taught us a thing or two. Sure, she and Chris usually go out on that day, and she did actually decorate a big Valentine cookie for him one year, but her attitude has remained the same. We should show our loved ones each day how much we care about them. While we still can. Because we may not be able to a few days from now.

How about buying a few extra valentine cards to have around all year, just to surprise someone when they least expect it? It could brighten someone’s day more than you know! Let’s extend Valentine’s Day into a lot more than just one day. After all, true love is not limited to just one day each year.

There’s Really A Galentine’s Day?

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Actually, yes. There is. I looked it up.

It’s like Valentines Day, except for girls. It may not be an official “holiday” but for millions of gals (women, ladies, girls, whatever you prefer to call you and your female friends), it really is a thing.

Now over the years, many single women used to dread Valentine’s Day because it reminded a lot of them that weren’t in a relationship, whether through no fault of their own, or they’d just had a terrible breakup or worse, their husband had passed away, or they just weren’t interested in a relationship at that point in time.

Right now the “official” Galentines Day is February 13. It’s a day for celebrating the platonic love between women, and friends of all genders. It can be with mothers, daughters, sisters, friends. Many women actually schedule Galentines Day and go out with their female friends while leaving their own husbands or significant others to fend for themselves.

It’s actually got some traditions already started. Like getting a bunch of friends lined up to go out and then drawing names to get that person a special gift to open that night from their “galentine”. I sort of like that idea.  It’s sort of like a secret Santa,only a “Secret Cupid”.

You can have the Galentines celebration at a restaurant or at someone’s home. With special indulgent sweet treats, like brownie heart cupcakes, pink champagne truffles, raspberry velvet cake, etc., forget the main course and go straight to the dessert.

After some special cocktails or champagne, of course. Or with those yummy desserts. Who cares? It’s a celebration!

In fact, you can make it an all day celebration, with a spa day, including mani-pedis, hair color and styling, massages, wine tasting…you name it.

So what do you think? Are you ready for something different this year? 

Let your imagination take flight, and let us know what you come up with!

Actually it sounds like a lot of fun!

Leaving Everything Behind. why?

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Several months ago I read yet another sad, or better said, gut-wrenching, story of a young man who decided life would be easier if he just gave up and left it behind for something else.

His mother is naturally grief stricken and almost beyond comfort. “My heart is broken beyond repair and I can not fathom how to go on…but I have to believe he is at peace with the Lord and that God will get us through.”

His brothers and sisters and countless other family members as well as his friends are devastated.

Suicide is unfortunately a choice of last resort for many, many people suffering from depression. Or facing a devastating  diagnosis. Or being bullied and taunted by selfish and uncaring people until they can’t take it any more.

This particular young man was suffering from depression. He was being treated and counseled by professionals. He was greatly loved. But for him, it just wasn’t enough.

And we’re hearing so many more stories like this, and far too often.

Just ten days ago a car drove off a privately owned pier here in Virginia Beach very early on a Saturday morning. A couple of joggers were out on the boardwalk that morning taking pictures of the sunrise and happened to videotape the car as it drove along the pier, smashing through barricades and gates, pausing only once, and then plowing through the last barricade before it plunged into the ocean below, quickly disappearing into the seventeen foot seas below.

Police were on the scene within 4 minutes, but there was no sign of the car or anyone in the water. Divers had to wait several days to safely go down to see about the car which was resting upside down in the water, and try to get some evidence to at least identify the vehicle, since it was too dangerous to try to go close enough to look inside the car and determine how many people had been inside.

All I could think of was surely, somewhere there’s someone who’s trying to find a friend or a loved one who’s missing, and wondering if that person or persons could be inside that car. But no one came forward. Maybe they were from out of town and no one knew they were missing. Or maybe they had no one to care enough about them to check on their whereabouts.

Finally three days later there was a report of a missing person that could be the driver. But we still don’t know. Even now that the car was finally pulled out of the water almost a week later. There was a body of a male inside, but still no idea who it was since the license plate on the car was gone. Most likely the police have a good idea, but haven’t said anything yet until the family has been told.

A memorial has started on the pier, growing daily, with cards, signs, flowers and the like, posthumously letting the world know that this one person’s life will not be forgotten.

But what could possibly cause someone to be so depressed, so downtrodden, and feeling so hopeless and alone that they just felt there was no way out except to end their life? How could they leave behind people who love them and care about them? What went so wrong in their life that they just couldn’t face it anymore?

I have no answers. They will hopefully be coming soon, and I’m sure the answers won’t be the answers that any of us want to hear.

Nothing can be so bad that there is no way out except ending your life.

Nothing.

If you or someone you know is suicidal or suffering from severe emotional distress, there are resources out there. One is the 988 suicide and crisis hotline.  It’s a national network of local crisis centers that provide free and confidential support. They are available to help 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. You can learn more at 988lifeline.org.

If You Don’t Like to Have Your Photo Taken…

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Because you think you aren’t pretty enough…

Or you don’t like the wrinkles you’re seeing on your face…

Or you don’t like your teeth…

Or you don’t like your hair…

Just remember….

Your face is a combination of hundreds of people who were in love throughout time. 

How much more beautiful can you be than that?

My mother always hated having her picture taken. I have pictures of her but very few with her smiling. The ones I do have with that beautiful smile are so precious to me.

I don’t really like my pictures when they’re taken either. I don’t like the way I look because I don’t like the way my smile looks. It seems like I’m posing and I don’t look natural. I even use a photo that’s almost ten years old on my Outlook profile because it’s one I actually like.

But after reading the quote on Facebook that began this post, it gave me a whole new look on picture taking, as well as how I perceive the way I look.

I never thought about the way I look being a part of how others before me looked. Yes, I know people have said how I resemble my mom, and how she looked a lot like her mother. But I’ve never thought about how far back the resemblances go. 

My face is a combination of my mom and dad, which is a combination of their parents. Which is also a combination of their sets of parents. And so on. We can keep on going until we get into hundreds of people that we’re related to, and who’ve contributed to our lineage. And our looks.

Those relatives may not look anywhere near the same as we look today, because of different styles of clothing and hair and other facial expressions.  But if we look closely enough, the resemblance is there.

Early pictures of my mother show a beautiful young woman, her exciting life ahead of her.  A life she was excited about. I have no pictures of my mother’s mother at an early age, but I can imagine those pictures would show the same resemblances.

And looking at my own baby pictures, compared to my daughter’s baby pictures? And her firstborn daughter’s pictures, you see a stronger resemblance than ever.

So why do we not like our own pictures, the more we see them? Because we’re looking at them with our own eyes, rather than through eyes of generations before us.

We may change somewhat as the years go by, but that strong family resemblance in the eyes and other facial features don’t go away. And then we see ourselves in our children and their children.

And so it will continue through future generations.

All because two people fell in love and created a beautiful combination of themselves.

It’s certainly something to think about.

 Like I just did.

Matters of the Heart, Part 35

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In our household, when one of us gets an early morning text, it’s either about an interesting news article, a funny story, a cute thing one of the grandkids did, or something we probably don’t want to know about.

In our case, it usually starts with “guess what!” And goes downhill from there. With usually something that we aren’t expecting and really don’t want to know.

And when you answer such a question with “what?”, you usually don’t really want to hear the answer, and it seems to take forever to get it anyway. Which was the case Monday morning just two days ago.

l didn’t expect to hear Ben reply with  “My pacemaker alarm went off!”

Which as far as we knew then, meant we had 30 days to get it replaced. So he texted his cardiologist, and then called the doctors’ offices and the pacemaker department. 

You can imagine how we both felt at that point. After all, the pacemaker is basically keeping him alive.

Fortunately we’ve since found out we have 90 days to get it replaced, which would be sometime in March. But does it make me feel better? I guess. But there’s still that bit of worry in the back of your mind…what if…?

Now of course, we were making a few jokes about it, because if you can’t find something to laugh about, you’ll end up crying or driving yourself crazy. 

One of my friends said all the hassle and stress of trying to get his blood sugar under control probably sped up the process. Hmmm, could be right on that one.

I said it was probably the stress of watching the Kansas City Chiefs game the night before! Which was quite stressful for us Chiefs fans! And will probably be equally as stressful when they play the Baltimore Ravens on Sunday.

But regardless of why the battery life turned out to be a little less than the estimated 5 years, we now know it will shortly be replaced with a brand new pacemaker rather than just a battery. I guess it’s like a trade in?

And what happens to the old one? Do we keep it as a souvenir? A paperweight? Does it get recycled?

But thinking about all of this…I have to say it really makes you stop and think about the true ramifications of all this. 

Ben needs the pacemaker to keep his heart in a normal rhythm. It also serves as a defibrillator. It helps keep his heart beating process which keeps him alive. 

As long as it’s working. Now we trust his doctor completely, and I know he’ll make sure it’s replaced in a timely manner.  But I can’t help but think about the what if’s. It’s natural, of course, especially with everything Ben has been through over the years, and particularly the last two months.

But he’s a survivor, and he’s proved that a number of times. And he’ll continue to do so.

But it was still a bit unnerving when the pacemaker alarm went off again on Tuesday. 

And again this morning as I was posting this blog.

It’s a countdown we don’t need to be reminded of.

So Many Books, So Little Time

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I always totally enjoyed collecting books that I knew I’d read eventually. Then I started running out of space for them all. And eventually had no choice but to donate the ones I’d already read to others who’d appreciate them as much as I did.

That was hard, because to a book lover like myself, those books became cherished friends, and it was like giving away a part of myself. For that same reason I don’t like loaning a book to someone because I’m afraid I’ll never get back, and when I do, it certainly won’t be in same condition as when I loaned it.

But in order to accommodate my reading obsession, I had no choice if I wanted to continue my favorite hobby of reading a good book. As often as I could.

Why reading, you may ask? Why books? Why spend so much spare time reading books when there are other things to do? 

It’s actually quite simple.

Books can take you to places you’ve always dreamed of going without ever having to leave your chair. Or in my case, quite often my pool float.

Books introduce you to all kinds of new people who end up becoming old friends. When you come to the end of that book you continue to wonder what else those people are up to now. (That’s the great thing about reading a series. The stories continue on in several more books with the same characters continuing to live their lives and pursue new adventures. And you always keep hoping the author will decide to write just one more about your now old friends.)

Books teach you to be happy by yourself, because they make you feel

like you’re never alone. You’re with interesting people who take you to interesting places and introduce you to new ideas.

Reading a really good book makes you want to climb inside and live with the characters wherever they’re living. Help them do what they’re doing, and even sit down and have a cup of tea or a glass of wine with them as you both share your life stories.

To an avid reader, the movie made from a book is almost never as good as the book itself, because so many parts are left out of the movie for the sake of time, and the characters are not as developed in the movie as they are in the book. Many of the nuances in books just can’t translate onto the screen.

And why do avid readers find it difficult to pick out their favorite book? Because we find little pieces of ourselves scattered throughout so many of the stories we read. Combine the stories and you figure out the person. One person isn’t just one story. It’s all of them.

Thousands of people read the same book but in each person’s mind the chapters look different and the setting changes. We may all be reading the same book but it’s unique to each one of us. I picture the characters most likely in an entirely different way than another reader. But we both enjoy the same book.

My husband is the exact opposite. He likes to read, but only newspapers and magazines and online news sites. He finds reading a book boring, and just wants to see the movie. We’ve been together over 40 years and I still don’t get it. But I’m still trying to get him to understand.

And while I still love the feel of a real book in my hands, in order to be able to accommodate my reading habit and not having a gigantic library in which to house all my books (although I’m still hoping to win the lottery so I can actually have such an amazing space), the next best thing to me is my Kindle. I debated long and hard before taking the plunge, but within an hour, I was hooked!

I now have over 1,000 books in my Kindle library, many already read, but a lot of samples, so I can read a bit of the book before I buy it. And those samples are there because I don’t want to forget about them because they all really look interesting! How many samples out of all the ones I have have I actually discarded? Maybe four or five. And yes, when I make that decision, I do feel a bit guilty!

Do I have a reading obsession? Absolutely. Is it a bad thing? Not at all! It’s not like I’m spending money on designer shoes and purses, or expensive jewelry. I’m expanding my mind and actually saving money! Kindle books are less expensive.

Right?

And now, I have about 30 more minutes to read in the book I’m reading now, so it’s time to get back to it. I have more adventures waiting.

When Opportunity Knocks

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You don’t leave it standing on the doorstep. You invite it in and feed it chocolate cake.

I read that in a book recently by Carolyn Brown, and it really made me smile. Such a great southern way to make a statement. But it sure makes sense.

Think about it. I picture a well dressed man, most likely in his early 40’s, holding a briefcase and knocking on a front door while standing on the porch, with blue hydrangeas in full bloom in the background.

He carefully taps on the brass door knocker as he’s smiling, waiting for the door to open, ready to present an unexpected opportunity to one of the unsuspecting people inside.

He’s invited in, and presents the opportunity while sitting at the table in a sunny kitchen, with a cup of coffee and a slice of fresh baked chocolate cake.

Personally, I would have offered wine and a fruit and cheese board, but that’s just me.

Now of course we’re not really talking about a literal chocolate cake, or cheese board, but it makes a great visual.

The point is, when an opportunity comes your way, don’t immediately dismiss it. Don’t form an instant negative opinion because it’s not exactly what you had in mind.

Don’t think of all the reasons you shouldn’t take a chance, or sometimes even think seriously about that opportunity.

So it isn’t exactly what you thought you’d like to do, or where you’d like to live.

It may even seem like it’s a step backward, although there’s a real potential to advance a lot farther than you are now. And probably quicker than it took you in your current situation.

So what do you do? Ignore it totally? Agree to think about it? Talk it over with a few others? Or jump in and decide to take a chance?

And maybe have another piece of chocolate cake?

Or maybe that cheese board with a glass of wine!

Don’t be afraid to take a chance. And don’t take too long to decide. It may not come again.

Or opportunity may go somewhere else where he/she’s wanted and open to taking a chance. And they’ll be the ones enjoying that chocolate cake, and maybe even the wine and cheese board!

If You Can’t Push Through Your Wall of Problems

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Climb over them. Tunnel under them. Or go around them.  There’s more than one way to get to your goal.

If you don’t try to push through that wall of problems, you’re never going to be able to solve them. 

And if you don’t solve them, you’re going to be stuck behind a wall that does nothing but get bigger and thicker and taller. 

What’s stopping you?

Fear? Lack of self confidence? No motivation? Not wanting to step out of your comfort zone?

Those aren’t good reasons. They’re excuses. And excuses get you nowhere.

If that’s where you want to be, then you’ll be stuck behind that wall of problems for the rest of your life.

And you’ll always wonder what you’re doing wrong.

How Do You See the Glass in 2024?

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Half empty?

Half full?

Or maybe it’s leaking and there’s no plug to stop it.

That’s a decision you need to make. Now. The new year is only a few days old, but already you’re complaining that it’s just a repeat of last year.

The same problems, the same situations that you were stuck in last year. It’s a new year and you’re still miserable. What’s the point?

So the glass is half empty? Or is it leaking like a sieve and you can’t find anything to plug the hole?

Are you going to waste this entire new year ahead of you concentrating on everything that’s still wrong in your life? Complaining, feeling depressed, and concentrating on everything that you think is wrong in your life instead of looking at what’s good in your life, and finalizing and working those plans to change what’s still wrong?

If you continue to see the glass as half empty, it’s only going to start draining down further, and eventually it’ll be empty all the way.

Then what do you do?

Sitting around and looking at things negatively isn’t going to make that glass fill up; it’s not going to plug the hole that allows what’s still inside to pour out and become wasted.

“But you don’t understand how I feel. You have a good job/a nice home/a boyfriend or girlfriend/husband or wife/you’re not in pain all the time and facing surgery/your kids aren’t in big trouble/you’re not down to your last few dollars and can’t pay your bills/you’re not stressed about your job/you’re not so busy you have no time for what you want to do….”

Sound familiar? Guess what? You have no idea what that other person is going through. Because you’re concentrating on how miserable your life is and comparing it to everyone else’s life when you have no idea what they’re going through.

They may be fine on the outside, but inside they may be going through just as many struggles, or more, than you. They just don’t share them and complain about them.

They look at things differently. They see the glass half full rather than almost empty. Sure, they want it fuller than it is, but they know things will improve. They’re working toward that goal by thinking positive, and doing things to reach that goal.

They know the glass is only half full right now, but they also know it’s eventually going to get more in it.

They’re out there working to make things happen. Sure, it’s not always easy, and there will certainly be setbacks, maybe even failures along the way. The glass will get a little fuller, but then it’ll drain out a bit. Again.

It’s never going to be completely full, because life isn’t always perfect. And if that’s what you’re looking for, your glass won’t even be half full; it’ll be almost empty.

There’s no quick, magic solution to fix your problems, and to make that glass fuller. When you turn on the faucet to fill your glass, it doesn’t instantly fill. It depends on how fast the water runs, and if you allow some to splash out because it’s running too fast.

Being miserable and telling yourself no matter what you do it’s not going to work becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. You’ll stay miserable and unhappy and your glass will keep draining until there really is nothing left inside.

But doing something to make the situation better, and doing it daily, will eventually result in the glass becoming fuller. You may not notice it at first, but all if a sudden you’ll see it differently and realize, it is fuller…and by more than half.

How do I know? I’ve been there. I compared my life to everyone else’s and thought mine would never be better. And until I started to see the glass as half full instead of half empty, I didn’t think things could ever be better.

My life isn’t perfect; no one’s is. At least no one I know. But my glass is a lot more than half full. And I work on it every day because I don’t ever want to see it half empty, or worse, almost empty, ever again.

Keep that in perspective. Write down the good things in your life. Not just the big things, but the little ones, too. Then do the same with the things you need to change. And then…write down how you’re going to change them for the better. And don’t stop until you have at least one idea on how to change each bad thing to better.

It’s all up to you, you know. It’s your glass you’re seeing. And you’re the only one who can change how you see it.

There’s a whole lot of new year left. Start filling that glass!

Resolutions…or Not? It’s 2024 Now.

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Traditionally almost all of us make at least one or two New Year’s resolutions. We say we’re going to lose weight, exercise more, get our financial lives together, or spend more time with our families instead of our jobs.

We really mean it when we make those resolutions. But by the end of the first couple of weeks, or at least by the end of January, all of those resolutions are forgotten. Discarded. We just can’t seem to make them work. It takes too much effort, or we lose interest.

Personally, I hardly ever make any New Year’s resolutions, because I know I won’t keep them. What’s so special about making a change in our lives simply because it’s a new year? If we don’t change ourselves and our way of thinking, turning over the date on the calendar isn’t going to do it.

And once again I didn’t make any resolutions. Instead of making resolutions I’m going to continue to be thankful for the things I have. The things that really matter to me. Because that’s what it’s all about.

In fact, I can almost bet that a lot of those resolutions many of you made Sunday evening on New Year’s Eve have already gone by the wayside. Or are already close to being gone and forgotten.

So here’s what I am thankful for.

Health – My husband’s as well as mine. He’s had a number of medical issues over the years…heart issues, high blood pressure, two cornea transplants, lung issues, sleep apnea, and most recently a bout with RSV which has led to steroid induced diabetes. But he’s still going strong and maintains the same upbeat attitude about life. I am still extremely healthy. I may be stressed, but who isn’t!? I’m not overweight. My cholesterol and other bloodwork are fine. With a number of friends and family members going through some serious health problems right now, good health is a huge deal!

Friends – Ben and I have several very close, very dear friends who are always there for us when we need them, just as we are there for them. They are not acquaintances. They’re our family, and we love each other dearly. I wouldn’t trade them for anything.

Our home – I may grumble about having to cook and clean, but we have a comfortable home. It may need fresh paint and more new carpet in a few more places, but it’s our home, where we raised our daughter, entertain our friends, and just enjoy being together.

A loving and helpful husband – Ben helps me around the house without my even asking. He does the grocery shopping and even cooks most nights, helps me clean and sometimes does the laundry. He is a gem, and I would not trade him for anything in the world.

Our children and our grandchildren – Our daughter Ashley and her husband Chris, who we consider our son, have now presented us with THREE beautiful grandchildren who are a constant source of joy to us. What could be any better?

Our pets – Our two dogs, Benji and Chloe, continue to be our constant loyal companions, and of course are spoiled rotten. And our cat Hershey, who is now 20 years old, continues to be in excellent health.

Our country – We live in a country where we are free to worship as we please without fear of being arrested because of our beliefs. We are also free to voice our opinions without fear of being imprisoned. Is it perfect? No; not by a long shot. We still have a lot of political unrest and other serious problems to reconcile. But even with all of the chaos we are experiencing, our country is still so much better than all of the rest.

Employment – Ben is semi retired and working part time in a job he totally enjoys. I am still employed full time in a job I truly enjoy with a great team of coworkers and a wonderful supervisor. Plus, I am able to work remotely here in my home office. I couldn’t ask for anything more in that regard.

Our Lord and Savior – who loves us unconditionally, who answers our prayers, even when we don’t like the answers, and promises us the gift of eternal life, just because we love him.

With blessings such as these, who needs New Year’s Resolutions?

What blessings do you have that you may take for granted every day? Stop and think about them. Even if your life may not be as perfect as you’d like right now, I can almost guarantee if you stop and think about it, you can think of at least five, if not more, blessings that you enjoy that many others wish they were lucky enough to have.

May each of you have a blessed and Happy New Year! Count your blessings rather than your resolutions, and if you wish to share those blessings, we’d love to hear them!