You Just Don’t Understand

How many times have we heard that?

How many times have we said that to someone?

But a few days ago I saw this, and decided it sure fits these four words:

If you don’t call me I’ll understand.

If you don’t text me I’ll understand.

If I forget you you’ll understand.

Yes, our lives are all busy. Days or weeks go by before we realize it.

But a phone call takes only a few minutes.

A text message takes 30 seconds.

Forgetting can take either a few minutes, a few days, or a lifetime.

Because first you have to understand that you were never that important to that person in the first place.

“But I. . . “

“I can’t,” she said. So she didn’t.

“I tried,” she said. But she really didn’t.

“It didn’t work,” she said. But she didn’t try.

“I couldn’t do it,” she said. But she didn’t try.

“It was too hard,” she said. Because she never tried.

“I gave up,” she said. Because she half-heartedly tried and didn’t try to finish.

“I never knew that,” she said. Because she never cared to learn.

“I didn’t realize,” she said. Because she never took the time to listen.

“I never accomplished anything,” she said at the end.

Because she never put forth the effort to try.

Don’t let this happen to you. There’s still time to accomplish what you want to do. But you have to try in order to make it happen. 

The Biggest Communication Problem Is…

We don’t always listen to understand.

We listen to reply. Because we like the sound of what we have to say, regardless of whether or not it has anything to do with what the other person said.

Is it because you don’t really care about what the other person is telling you? It’s important to them, you know.

But if you’re not really listening to what they’re saying, why would they listen to what you’re saying in reply?

Because you may not even be talking about the same subject.

The next time someone starts a conversation with you, why not actually listen to what they’re saying before you reply? 

Sounds simple, but how many of you really do it?

Nothing Changes

If nothing changes.

Do you need to read that again?

Do you want to make changes in your life? Then you need to make changes in your life.

If you really want a change, a new start, a new beginning, you have to be willing to change some things in your life.

Things you’re doing. Or not doing.

Change comes with making changes. You can’t continue doing what you’re doing and expect a different outcome.

If You Put Off Making A Decision

It’ll be made for you. 

And it might not be the one you would have made for yourself, except you hesitated. Didn’t want to deal with it.

But if you put off making a decision you really need to make, because you’re afraid to make the wrong decision, you’ll be stuck with a result that you’ll have to live with for a long time.

It may be a decision you’d have made much differently, but were hesitant to decide one way or another. 

So now you’re stuck with the consequences.

Consequences you caused because you wouldn’t make a decision. Isn’t it better to live with the consequences of a decision you made, instead of one you refused to have a say in?

It’s Only Words

We’ve heard that line from the song. You can probably sing a lot of it if you’re of the same age group I am.  

Words matter. But actions DO speak louder.

Words are so easy to say. But if they don’t come from the heart, that’s all they are. Words.

What’s the next line of that song?

“And words are all I have….”

Sometimes that should be “and words are all I hear….”

Because words that are spoken and not backed up by actions have no meaning

A Positive Attitude

It may not solve all of your problems, but it may annoy enough people to make it worth your while.

Does that maybe give you a new reason to have a positive attitude? It does for me!

Why spend your time and energy thinking something bad is going to happen any time. It may. But it may not. 

But that’s not in your control. 

So expect the positive instead of worrying about the negative.  Your day will go much better! 

When Life Gives You Lemons

Yeah, yeah, we all know that one. When life gives you lemons make lemonade.

What if we change it around a bit?

When life gives you lemons, make lemon meringue pie and smash it in its face.

…..cut them in slices and garnish your martini.

….chop them up and put them in your garbage disposal and your kitchen will smell wonderful!

Or, when life gives you lemons, ask for a return address.

We’ve all been given lemons. Probably many times. 

What did you do with yours?

Cherish Every Day

Because one day all you’ll have are the memories.

You’ll not be able to go visit them or take them to lunch.

You won’t be able to pick up the phone and hear their voice.

You’ll not be able to spend holidays with them.

You’ll see an item in the store that you know they’d love, but there’s no need to buy it because they’re not around to open any gifts.

You’ll still have lots pictures of them, if you’re lucky, but you can’t hug them or kiss them anymore.

Cherish every day. Because you don’t know how many days are left. 

You Can’t Step Into the Future

…if you keep one foot in the past.

If you continue to dwell on what was and what was lost, because it cannot be recovered.

If you continue to regret choices you made instead of looking ahead to make better choices for your future.

If you’re not willing to accept that your future can be so much better than your past. 

Because it can be. If you let it.