And once again looking expectantly to starting something new. Maybe becoming someone new.
We all have that feeling at first, or a part of it. This is going to be a year of changes, a year we accomplish something new, a year of becoming a new person, etc.
All over social media we see the examples, many times in the form of ads for products being pushed on us that are supposed to make that huge change in your life.
Ads for new journals to use to record all the wonderful things you’re going to do. Ads for art and writing classes that will suddenly change your entire life, just by using their product. Ads for cosmetics that will instantly make you look ten or twenty years younger overnight. Ads for products that will teach you a new language, a new skill, or make you lose weight easily and quickly; all you have to do is buy the product!
So what’s the magic formula that changes December 31, 2022 at 11:59 PM to January 1, 2023 at 12:00 midnight that suddenly makes all your hopes and dreams come true in just a second of time? What causes that transformation from who you were that particular second to the new person you become the next second?
Do you magically feel different, look different, think different, maybe suddenly have everything you ever wanted?
It’s not that easy, is it?
Our expectations are easy to imagine in our minds. But to make them actually happen is another matter.
Sure, we start out believing that THIS new year is “it”. The year we do this, that or the other thing; the year that we become who we’re destined to be; the year we find that perfect job, that perfect relationship, that perfect thing we’ve been looking for for so long.
We’re expectant. We’re excited. We start new things and vow to continue our new “me” forever.
And for several weeks we do. But the novelty wears off, and we quickly become tired of trying so hard because we don’t get what we want right away, and by the end of January we’re back to our old selves, wondering why nothing has changed yet.
It happens to all of us at one time or the other. Sometimes over and over.
Because making a change entails a lot more than saying you’re going to do this or that. It involves changing your mindset, the way you think about things.
It involves stepping out of your comfort zone and taking a chance. It involves doing something new, in order to make a change.
And it also involves sticking with something even when you don’t see the results immediately, like in a few weeks or maybe a month. Because change isn’t instant. You can’t wiggle your nose or snap your fingers and instantly change your life. That’s not how it works.
Yes, the new year is a great time to make promises of things you’re going to do to change your life. But that change will only happen if you make a conscious and conscientious decision to really do it, and not give up and not stop until you reach your goal.
Change can only come by working toward a goal and continuing, even when you don’t see things happening right away or the way you expect them to.
It took a lot of years to become who your were on December 31. So why do you expect to immediately be someone else on January 1?
Promising yourself to do something different in this new year is great, but don’t lose sight of that promise on January 2, or 3, or January 20….or the next month or two. You can accomplish your goal, but not without changing your mindset and your way of living.
So try it. What have you got to lose?
Happy New Year to each and every one of you!